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Thoughts on 11


July 14th celebrates my oldest son’s 11th birthday. For the first time, I am realizing that he is growing into manhood. As I thought about the last ten years, I decided to look at my parenting through a different lens. I decided to look at Preston’s life and see what God has shown me about myself. Here are a few thoughts:

  • God has given me MANY opportunities for patience and I have failed miserably.
  • My phone is not that important.
  • I am not nearly as cool as my son thinks I am.
  • My quick first step on the basketball court is gone. Oh wait, I never had one. Translation: my son can actually guard me!
  • Take every teachable moment opportunity.
  • If his worldview is not shaped by me, it will be shaped by someone or something else.
  • It is my responsibility to disciple him (not the school, not the church, etc).
  • There is a direct correlation between my spiritual growth and how I parent.
  • How he handles conflict (poorly) is exactly how I handle conflict (poorly).
  • I love him more than he can ever know and it is not even close to how much his Eternal Father loves him.
  • Before long he will be out of our house and I have a ton of work to do before that happens.
  • All he wants is time and intentional time is what I intend to give him.
  • Praise be to God that He sent His one and only son to live, die and rise again so that I can live in eternity with Him!

Preston, this blog entry is for you. Love you buddy!


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I read this article today and thought it made some great points about manhood and parenting. While I do not agree with the entire article, I do believe that the writer makes some very good points in regards to parenting. The entire article can be found here.

“We can quit calling Steve McNair a great leader now. Leadership starts at home.”

“And I’m no longer all that interested in hearing about the community service work McNair did in Tennessee and Mississippi. Service to community begins at home, too.”

“What we do know is that McNair had four sons. And based on the observations and comments of Kazemi’s neighbors and neighbors at the condominium McNair rented, McNair spent so much time with Kazemi over the past few months that people assumed they lived together.”

“You see, this is my problem with McNair, with American men as a whole.”

“We shirk our responsibilities as fathers. We don’t have time for it. We think it’s a part- or no-time job. We think our career is more important. We think charity work is more important.”

“Kids are game-changers. Kids require sacrifice. Kids are a daily and sometimes hourly responsibility. You don’t properly raise them in your spare time with money, fame, gifts and glowing newspaper and magazine stories about your courage to play on Sundays despite injury and pain.”

“Steve McNair sounds like a warrior who fought the wrong war. He won a public-relations battle.”

“Steve McNair was flawed in the same way as most American men.”

“Too many men think financial success is their primary and most important contribution to a relationship with their kids, wives and/or girlfriends.  Children shouldn’t have to settle for anything less than their father’s very best effort.”

My prayer is that we look at our own lives and examine what we are putting in front of our children. I know that each and every day I have to ask God to rid me of my selfish desire to do my own thing and forget everything else. Sadly, it still creeps out. The good news is that the grace of God is far stronger and it allows me to use those moments to teach my kids what not to do. Praise God that he uses imperfect people for His Glory. Go be intentional with your kids and give them a picture of what godly parenting really looks like.

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